[zulughana]

i am currently living with my girlfriend. being a career woman, she leaves the house quite early and returns roughly around 6pm every evening. things have been supreb untill her daughter from her first marriage decided to come live with us. my girlfriend has always mentioned her daughter to me and also shown me pictures of her. i have on many ocassions spoken to her on the phone, during those times when she would call her Mum for a girly chat.
things started going wrong when in the morning of a working day, my step daughter waltzed into the kitchen with her morning coat revealing what was underneath it. i plucked up the courage and politely told that in future she should make it a habit to be properly dressed before venturing outside the confines of her bedroom walls. she apologized, went back to her room, got dressed properly and came back to the kictchen.
however, two days after the incident, she repeated exactly what i had told her not to do. i immediately got angry, and just as i was about to give her a good "telling off" she calmly removed her morning coat to just around her waist revealing her perfect set of knockers; and boldly said to me "say the wrong thing and i will scream"...stopped on my tracks, i said "rubbish"...to which she cooly replied..."who do you think my Mum will believe...you or i?"
i am convinced that my step daughter is out to wreak the relationship i have with her Mum. but i am confused because i just cannot understand why she would want to do this..another part of me also tells me that she feels neglected one way or the other and is seeking some form of attention.
i feel reluctant to mention the incident to my girlfriend. i feel that if i do, she might instinctively tell me that i am making it up and believe the daughter without thinking twice.

how do i tackle a situation like this. i have refused to remain alone with my stepdaughter in case she tries to pull one of her "tricks" on me...

ladies and gents of this forum...this is my problem...i dont want to end the relationship i have with the woman i love.

This post has been edited by zulughana: 04 December 2007 - 12:19 AM

[Delicious Mocha]

Move out of there immediately until you and your girlfriend get married. How old is your step daughter again?? You should not engage in premarital sex Zulu...bad bad boy

[Delicious Mocha]

MR. DOGG, on Dec 3 2007, 03:42 PM, said:

Well, u still need to repeat her behavior to the mother for the simple reason that you owe her that because she's the one in relationship with you not the daughter! Aside from that, its morally compelling to mention this behavior to somebody besides the mother. Something is terribly wrong with ur rship with
the mother if she wont at least work with you to solve the problem. You need to find a way to get her to buy into your system just enuff to play "watch and catch" with the daughter. That way you dont only vindicate yourself of any crap but you also (hopefully) help arrest the problem.

How old is the girl anyway??

It'll be wrong if the mother doesn't take the daughter's side against the boyfriend's at least in the beginning....

[Delicious Mocha]

MR. DOGG, on Dec 3 2007, 03:44 PM, said:

Delicious Mocha, on Dec 4 2007, 12:33 AM, said:

Move out of there immediately until you and your girlfriend get married. How old is your step daughter again?? You should not engage in premarital sex Zulu...bad bad boy

would you also get off this pre-marital sex trip????

the guy has the enviable dilemma of 2 putties and you are talking about pre-marital sex. what planet are you from???

I've just arrived from mars..oiki oiki

[zulughana]

BRODO, on Dec 3 2007, 11:45 PM, said:

Sounds disastrous....

I'd suggest you just avoid being alone with her in the same room...I don't see how her behavior will change after you two are married...just don't antagonize her as you really can't force people to change their behavior...but you can change your location and alter your habits.....not that you move out of the house...just out of the room

Good luck man..

you are right..married or not married, her agenda will not change...she is out on a mission

she is 20 years old

[zulughana]

Delicious Mocha, on Dec 3 2007, 11:33 PM, said:

Move out of there immediately until you and your girlfriend get married. How old is your step daughter again?? You should not engage in premarital sex Zulu...bad bad boy

DM, marriage is out of the question...we are both happy with the way we are living...as partners

[Delicious Mocha]

MR. DOGG, on Dec 3 2007, 03:52 PM, said:

Delicious Mocha, on Dec 4 2007, 12:50 AM, said:

MR. DOGG, on Dec 3 2007, 03:42 PM, said:

Well, u still need to repeat her behavior to the mother for the simple reason that you owe her that because she's the one in relationship with you not the daughter! Aside from that, its morally compelling to mention this behavior to somebody besides the mother. Something is terribly wrong with ur rship with
the mother if she wont at least work with you to solve the problem. You need to find a way to get her to buy into your system just enuff to play "watch and catch" with the daughter. That way you dont only vindicate yourself of any crap but you also (hopefully) help arrest the problem.

How old is the girl anyway??

It'll be wrong if the mother doesn't take the daughter's side against the boyfriend's at least in the beginning....

and your reason being????

Mothers should trust their daughters first before they know the real story!

[Delicious Mocha]

zulughana, on Dec 3 2007, 03:54 PM, said:

Delicious Mocha, on Dec 3 2007, 11:33 PM, said:

Move out of there immediately until you and your girlfriend get married. How old is your step daughter again?? You should not engage in premarital sex Zulu...bad bad boy

DM, marriage is out of the question...we are both happy with the way we are living...as partners

Fine with me if you don't wanna marry , just don't have sex with her until you decide to...

[Delicious Mocha]

MR. DOGG, on Dec 3 2007, 04:05 PM, said:

Delicious Mocha, on Dec 4 2007, 01:03 AM, said:

MR. DOGG, on Dec 3 2007, 03:52 PM, said:

Delicious Mocha, on Dec 4 2007, 12:50 AM, said:

MR. DOGG, on Dec 3 2007, 03:42 PM, said:

Well, u still need to repeat her behavior to the mother for the simple reason that you owe her that because she's the one in relationship with you not the daughter! Aside from that, its morally compelling to mention this behavior to somebody besides the mother. Something is terribly wrong with ur rship with
the mother if she wont at least work with you to solve the problem. You need to find a way to get her to buy into your system just enuff to play "watch and catch" with the daughter. That way you dont only vindicate yourself of any crap but you also (hopefully) help arrest the problem.

How old is the girl anyway??

It'll be wrong if the mother doesn't take the daughter's side against the boyfriend's at least in the beginning....

and your reason being????

Mothers should trust their daughters first before they know the real story!

THATS THE ULTIMATE CRAP~!!!

I'M DONE WITH THIS DISCUSSION....HAVE FUN AND GOOD LUCK....HIPPI OR WHATEVER YOU CALL YOURSELF.

Just chill....

[Ewiase]

Zulu, with your knowledge of technology, i guess there will be a way to put this on audio or video to let the mother know what is happening.

[Ewiase]

Delicious Mocha, on Dec 4 2007, 12:33 AM, said:

Move out of there immediately until you and your girlfriend get married. How old is your step daughter again?? You should not engage in premarital sex Zulu...bad bad boy

i am amazed to hear something like this here.

[Delicious Mocha]

Ewiase, on Dec 3 2007, 08:00 PM, said:

Delicious Mocha, on Dec 4 2007, 12:33 AM, said:

Move out of there immediately until you and your girlfriend get married. How old is your step daughter again?? You should not engage in premarital sex Zulu...bad bad boy

i am amazed to hear something like this here.

Of course you are, it's absurd!

[Delicious Mocha]

hmm...

[rinabear07]

I think you should tell your partner about the incident, and soon, 'cuz I'm sure your lil lolita...I'm sorry your step daughter will be telling her mom. And she will be forced to believe her due to silence.

Every relationship is based on trust, and secrets tend to erode that trust. Your girlfriend knows the kind of man you are, so go ahead and tell her.

I also believe every mother knows her child/children and can tell what they are capable of or not. In the event she is one of those that bury their heads in the "sand", you should start taking extra care whenever the two of you are alone. Like locking doors, and anything else that may save your relationship!

[faf]

i think you should shag the duaghter and kick your g/f out... obviously she's hotter than her mum.

[Confused]

faf, on Dec 4 2007, 05:42 AM, said:

i think you should shag the duaghter and kick your g/f out... obviously she's hotter than her mum.

No Faf. You are two steps ahead.

Tell the mum and threaten to move out or actually move out depending on the response.

If the mum does not believe you, then shag the daughter.........

[Alhaji Jesus]

Confused, on Dec 4 2007, 04:29 PM, said:

faf, on Dec 4 2007, 05:42 AM, said:

i think you should shag the duaghter and kick your g/f out... obviously she's hotter than her mum.

No Faf. You are two steps ahead.

Tell the mum and threaten to move out or actually move out depending on the response.

If the mum does not believe you, then shag the daughter.........